This is incredibly relevant today.
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388Feminism is NOT a monolithic movement.
It is a damn shame people do not get that. There is black feminism, liberal feminism, chicana feminism, Marxist feminism, etc. Even the people within these communities do not agree on everything. I am sick of people assuming there is one feminism and one “right” feminism. When feminist cannot even agree on a basic definition of feminism, why do you think your feminism is the “right” feminism?
There are -isms in every single form of feminism. They manifest themselves in different ways depending on the group of feminist. We should be trying to get rid of the -isms within feminism but that still will not make a monolithic feminist movent. We can get rid of all the -isms in feminism and we will still disagree on how to achieve equality. So can we stop pretending feminism is a monolithic movement and there is only one “right” form of feminism?
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105“ We have to constantly critique imperialist white supremacist patriarchal culture because it is normalized by mass media and rendered unproblematic. ”
bell hooks (via thechocolatebrigade)
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1647Would people be telling me to “calm down,” you are too angry, you are a twat, etc. if I was a man?
No. I would be rightfully upset when people compare domestic violence to eating meat. I would be rightfully upset when I get mad people are shaming people with eating disorders. I would be rightfully pissed off when people compare eating meat to the holocaust. But women can never be rightfully upset because we are hysterical, PMSing, on the rag, etc. But men are always justified in their anger because they are never emotional.
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18889Life as a Woman - MissAcedia
Something I made to vent my frustrations.*EDIT* Fixed a typo
“ There are the occasions that men—intellectual men, clever men, engaged men—insist on playing devil’s advocate, desirous of a debate on some aspect of feminist theory or reproductive rights or some other subject generally filed under the heading: Women’s Issues. These intellectual, clever, engaged men want to endlessly probe my argument for weaknesses, want to wrestle over details, want to argue just for fun—and they wonder, these intellectual, clever, engaged men, why my voice keeps raising and why my face is flushed and why, after an hour of fighting my corner, hot tears burn the corners of my eyes. Why do you have to take this stuff so personally? ask the intellectual, clever, and engaged men, who have never considered that the content of the abstract exercise that’s so much fun for them is the stuff of my life. ”
Melissa McEwan, of course, on the terrible bargain. (via albinwonderland)
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8031“ Republicans have morality upside down. Santorum, Gingrich, and even Romney are barnstorming across the land condemning gay marriage, abortion, out-of-wedlock births, access to contraception, and the wall separating church and state. But America’s problem isn’t a breakdown in private morality. It’s a breakdown in public morality. What Americans do in their bedrooms is their own business. What corporate executives and Wall Street financiers do in boardrooms and executive suites affects all of us. There is moral rot in America but it’s not found in the private behavior of ordinary people. It’s located in the public behavior of people who control our economy and are turning our democracy into a financial slush pump. It’s found in Wall Street fraud, exorbitant pay of top executives, financial conflicts of interest, insider trading, and the outright bribery of public officials through unlimited campaign “donations. ”
Robert Reich (via azspot)
Oh my gosh, yes, this, so much this.
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4513“ dear men: when you are using public transit please close your fucking legs. i do no want to nor should i have to in anyway feel your body against mine. your spread eagle legs should not be pushing against my legs, forcing them together. if men insist on taking up three fucking seats they should have to pay three fucking fares.
i’ve honestly had enough of this shit. this isn’t a trivial issue. this is a big fucking deal. it is an issue of male privilege and space. women are not even allowed to take up enough space to take up our own fucking chair without disgusting fucking male limbs pushing into our personal space. i am fucking sick of this shit. dude, your balls aren’t that big. your legs aren’t gonna squeeze em together. ahhhhhhh just move your fucking legs. i hate you. ”
- Casey Jean.
so true.
get the fuck out of my space, little boy, before i punch you in the face.
CLOSE YOUR FUCKING LEGS.
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I always take up as much space as I can on public transport, without being downright rude. Especially when a guy sits down next to me trying to take up my space, I just push him back. I’m using this fucking armrest; my legs are spread enough that you can’t put yours into my space.
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One of the worst things about riding public transport: having strange men pressed up against you because they think they need an entire goddamn country for their dangles.
STOP TOUCHING ME.
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GOD SERIOUSLY IT’S SO FUCKING FRUSTRATING
also, number of times I’ve gotten my ass groped on a Rutgers bus this year: 3. the fuck.
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538yo the simpsons be droppin truth bombs sometimes.
forever will love the simpsons and their relevance to life
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When a woman can no longer control her own reproductive system because of someone else’s religious beliefs, it is no longer freedom of religion. It is the infringement of religion onto human freedom.
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I have a love hate relationship with Susan, but I love this quote.
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1432Sex on TV: Premature Engagement
A note from Lauren: Please excuse my absence this week, but trust in the fact that I’ve left the “Sex on TV” duties to a guest blogger who will not let you down. Plus, like I learned from television, the younger and cuter girl is always more desirable. So I present to you the musings of our intern, Roxanne, who still has the positive and ambitious attitude of a college student. The cynicism will come soon and fast, my dear.
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Although I graduated from college this past December, I won’t feel like it’s official until I walk the stage and receive my “diploma” (we all know they just hand you a blank piece of paper). As graduation day approaches, I notice myself getting anxious about my future and I think rightfully so. I have absolutely no idea where I am going to be or what I will be doing in June. Every time I think about my future I feel my stomach churning.
Recently during an episode of Glee, Finn struggled with decisions about his future. He is lost, just as most high school seniors are, but the difference between him and most other students is that he decides love is his number one priority. So he proposes to his girlfriend, Rachel. And for Rachel, growing increasingly nervous about her own future as she watches her friends get accepted to college and make plans while she’s still in limbo, she decides to accept Finn’s proposal. Is this really the way to get control over your life?
It seems like we’ve moved away from the cliché “after prom sex episode” (since now most programs are showing characters having sex throughout high school, not waiting for prom night) and instead towards the life-changing marriage proposal. My first memory of this prolific moment comes from Boy Meets World. Does anyone else remember watching Topanga propose to Corey while the rest of their classmates throw their caps in the air to celebrate their high school graduation? We all know how it ends… they decide not to get married right away and end up getting married during college (I know… so much more realistic).
We then move onto one of my favorite shows, Gilmore Girls. As Rory is about to graduate from Yale, Logan (her boyfriend of a couple of years) decides to pop the question. After some deliberation, Rory says no to Logan because, let’s be honest, there is a lot she wants to do before tying the knot. And really, who can blame her?
Even in comedies like That ’70s Show, the teenagers turn to proposals. When Eric is worried about his future with Donna at the end of high school he jumps to proposing. Even though his friends tell him it’s a bad idea, he does it anyway. And guess what… the wedding doesn’t happen. Obviously TV has to make things over the top and dramatic, but does it always have to be this all or nothing nonsense?
Now, before you say I don’t know what I am talking about because I have never been in a serious relationship and when you are in love age doesn’t make a difference, you should all know I have been with same person for almost 5 years. I can also tell you that as I try to figure out my life after graduation, I am not considering marriage. I am 22-years-old and not ready to get married, but that doesn’t mean I want to break-up with my boyfriend or that he isn’t a factor in my decisions. Obviously I can’t speak for him entirely (hope things don’t get awkward when he reads this), but I’m pretty sure we are on the same page.
So what’s wrong with me? According to TV, I should be picking out china patterns and planning my first kid by now. Apparently once a couple has had sex, the next step is marriage. Look at Finn and Rachel—they had sex earlier this season and now we have a proposal. But before they walk down the aisle, they should probably keep in mind that teen marriages are twice as likely to fail as marriages in which the woman is at least 25-years-old.
I’m not saying that teenagers and young adults should give up on love, but it’s important to remember that a relationship, or sex for that matter, doesn’t define you. Who knows if the Finn/Rachel wedding will actually happen, but it’s wrong that just because the two feel lost they made such a drastic decision. An engagement at 18 doesn’t make life less scary or complicated. You need to know who you are before making that type of commitment.
“Engagement ring” image by Tela Chhe.
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Lauren Mann works in The National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy’s Entertainment Media department. She’s been blogging about sex, love and relationships among twenty-somethings since she first joined the Campaign as an intern in 2009. Check out her personal blog at whatjewtalkingbout.tumblr.com.
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