50 More Ways To Be Sex Positive!
lacigreen:
In this week’s sex+ episode called “The Slut Shamer”, I used a variety of mini-skits to give some basic principles of sex positivity. Here are 50 more things that I do to complement my sex positive lifestyle. Help grow this list by sharing yours as well! Can we get to 100 ways to be more sex positive? :)
Sexuality
explore & find out what feels good! 
1. Read/write some erotica.
2. Talk about your fantasies with a partner.
3. Experiment with a new toy.
4. Draw an erotic picture of yourself or someone else.
5. Buy a cheap speculum and look at your cervix.
6. Fuck with your gender expression for a day (present as more fem/masc/andro/etc than usual).
7. Switch up your masturbation habits.
8. Make your own sex toy.
9. Go without a bra.
10. Turn sexual hurting into power with a slam poetry piece.
11. Hold a menarche party with your friends to celebrate your 1st period (even if it was long ago).
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‘Slut’
girlsgetbusyzine:
“there is no such thing as a ‘slut’ in my opinion.
there is such a thing as a selfish person who puts themselves in difficult situations though. if you sleep around and it hurts other people or puts you in danger then that is a problem.
so unless someone is actually hurting you or ruining your life by being ‘promiscuous’ then you shouldn’t go around preaching for them to ‘stop being a slut’.
get on with your own life and let people live theirs. i’ve said it before and i will say it a million times more.”
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1.31.12. slut shaming,words/wording,language,the purity myth,sex,feminism,truth,quote,
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feministdisney:
feministdisney:
For once, this is not my original wording, but instead giving homage to a recent post by CokeTalk (<- hit link to view post). I obviously had a lot of love for her response to that boy.
Interested in learning more about slut shaming? Click here for an in-depth explanation!
reblogging since I posted this late morning, which is middle of the night for US American readers. :P
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Slut-Shaming: A Small Facet to the Bigger Picture of “Sex-Shaming”
liberal-antics:
I would like to start off by saying I rarely use the term “slut-shaming.” Here’s a couple reasons why:
- Not every person who has sex and enjoys it has reclaimed the word “slut.” It assumes everyone is comfortable with referring to themselves as such, but that’s not true.
- People have negative connotations with the word “slut,” which makes them less receptacle to accepting “slut-shaming” as a bad thing. Yes, this point coddles people who are ignorant and generally controlling when it comes to people’s sex lives, but it’s true. People are more willing to admit they are shaming a person for sex if they are shaming a person who’s a “slut.”
- “Slut-shaming” only encompass one aspect of the sexual spectrum. The cis female hetero side. There is a whole wide range of sexuality and sex habits that get bashed and shamed; this is only representative of one.
This is why I like and use the term “sex-shaming.” “Slut-shaming” only provides a narrow view of a bigger but equally perpetuated problem, that problem being narrow mindedness about sex.
From what I’ve observed, people who “slut-shame” do not just shame women who have lots of sex; there are usually other “unacceptable” sexual acts that they shame. Here’s some that I’ve noticed on Tumblr and out and about in “real life:”
- Teen sex*
- Homosexual sex
- Premarital sex*
- Sex between legally married homosexual couples
- Sex not for procreation*
- Sex that is not “vanilla”*
- Anal sex*
- Sex with multiple partners*
- Sex with multiple partners at once*
- Oral sex*
- Sex resulting in unwanted pregnancy, which may or may not result in abortion*
- Sex resulting in multiple unwanted pregnancies, which may or may not result in multiple abortions*
- Sex without protection*
- Sex with protection*
* indicates that this category is applicable to any gender identity and any sexual preference.
When I see someone who “slut-shames,” I see extra reasons behind the shaming, like the ones listed above. It’s not just female sex (though it is attacked more often, and I can see where that leads to the term in question) but there is so much more to “slut-shaming” then what is discussed.
It is often rooted deeply in a misguided moral compass, which points to ONE type of sex as being “acceptable,” and anything outside of that specific set of qualifications is deemed “unacceptable.” Normal sex between a married, heterosexual couple for the means of procreation is what is set as the “acceptable” parameters for sex. People who sex shame often shame people who are not married, not intending to create children, and usually do not accept any kind of sexual relationship between homosexuals. This opens multiple categories of sexual experiences to be shamed or deemed “immoral,” and there’s usually a combination of two or more included in the reasoning behind why a person is shaming sex.
Slut-shaming is definitely a problem, one that we on Tumblr and in life should be and usually are willing to address. Women should not be shamed just because we like and have sex. But in addressing the evils of slut-shaming, we cannot forget the evils of the shaming of sex in general, and the harmful nature of the way that it is perpetuated in everyday life; no one should be shamed because like and have sex.
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“ Ask ten adults to define a slut and you’ll hear things like: a woman who has sex with lots of men; a women who sleeps around; a woman who has casual sex; a woman who flaunts her body. They’ll probably also use words like loose, easy, trashy, cheap and desperate. Someone might say: a woman who has the sexual appetites of a man. No one will say: a mythical creature dreamt up by people who are jealous of or threatened by female sexual expression. ”
Emily Maguire- Princesses & Pornstars (via missrockmeup)
This is the best definition of slut I have ever, ever heard/read: a mythical creature dreamt up by people who are jealous of or threatened by female sexual expression
Edit: tumblr app removed the credit for the above commentary and I can’t tell who I reblogged this from. Apologies. (via squeetothegee)
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ayshenrocks:
Seriously, why do you care what or who I do with my body. It’s none of your business.
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“ If someone calls you a slut, there’s nothing you can say to refute the claim because it never had any cognitive content anyway. Even virginity is not a defense against alleged sluttiness. Virgins can be sluts if they dress the wrong way, walk the wrong way, or even instill the wrong thoughts in other people. Some people will convict you of sluttitude because your body is the wrong shape, or the right shape. What determines sluttiness? Is it number of partners, or the number of sex acts, or the kind of sex, or whether you enjoy it, or what other people infer about your self-esteem based on what they assume about your sex life? It’s all of the above, or none of the above. Either way, you lose. Maybe it has nothing to do with you at all. Maybe it’s because your accuser is racist or classist and your “sluttiness” is built into some stereotype that was clanking around in their head before they ever met you. If you try to argue that you’re not a slut, you’re implicitly buying into the idea that there are sluts out there. If there’s some criterion that will set you free, that standard will indict someone else—someone with a higher “number,” or shorter skirt, or a later curfew. So we get bogged down in slut/non-slut border skirmishes over a line nobody should have tried to draw in the first place, and we all lose. The only “refutation” is to laugh in your accuser’s face and get on with your life, however you choose to live it. That’s what Slut Walk is about. ”
Sluts Like Me - Jezebel (via grrrlvirus)
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“ A ‘slut’ is such a specific adjective, too. And anytime there is an adjective that only describes one gender I think it should be striken. If you can’t call a guy a slut and mean it in that like, same cut-you-to-the-core kind of insulty kind of way then, fuck it. Like, it shouldn’t even exist. ”
Lindsey Way (via thatswhatshesaidquotes)
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“ Let me put it to you this way. Rape culture is a culture in which people who have survived a violent crime are asked to laugh about it because other people think it’s funny. ”
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wewantrevolutiongirlstylenow:
Keep questioning the use of these terms; who uses them, why they use them, should you keep using them when you realise their full connotations?
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