thenewwomensmovement:

Ten rape prevention tips:

terramantra:

1. Don’t put drugs in women’s drinks.

2. When you see a woman walking by herself, leave her alone.

3. If you pull over to help a woman whose car has broken down, remember not to rape her.

4. If you are in an elevator and a woman gets in, don’t rape her.

5. When you encounter a woman who is asleep, the safest course of action is to not rape her.

6. Never creep into a woman’s home through an unlocked door or window, or spring out at her from between parked cars, or rape her.

7. Remember, people go to the laundry room to do their laundry. Do not attempt to molest someone who is alone in a laundry room.

8. Use the Buddy System! If it is inconvenient for you to stop yourself from raping women, ask a trusted friend to accompany you at all times.

9. Carry a rape whistle. If you find that you are about to rape someone, blow the whistle until someone comes to stop you.

10. Don’t forget: Honesty is the best policy. When asking a woman out on a date, don’t pretend that you are interested in her as a person; tell her straight up that you expect to be raping her later. If you don’t communicate your intentions, the woman may take it as a sign that you do not plan to rape her.

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projectunbreakable:

The poster reads: 
1 in 6 males are sexual abused before age 18 - far more than are at risk for diabetes (1 in 10) or heart disease (1 in 8).
At 8 I became a statistic - at 30 I became a survivor. (Most male survivors take at least 20 years to begin healing - if they ever do)
For 22 years I lived in silence. Now I want the world to know - what happened to me can happen to anyone. Both the abuse and the healing. 
www.malesurvivor.org // @malesurvivorORG on Twitter
“For every 100 friends you have on Facebook, 15-20 (at least) are survivors of sexual abuse.”
Photographed in New York City on June 2nd.
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Want to be a part of Project Unbreakable? Email us at projectunbreakable@gmail.com
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View submissions here

projectunbreakable:

The poster reads:

1 in 6 males are sexual abused before age 18 - far more than are at risk for diabetes (1 in 10) or heart disease (1 in 8).

At 8 I became a statistic - at 30 I became a survivor. (Most male survivors take at least 20 years to begin healing - if they ever do)

For 22 years I lived in silence. Now I want the world to know - what happened to me can happen to anyone. Both the abuse and the healing. 

www.malesurvivor.org // @malesurvivorORG on Twitter

“For every 100 friends you have on Facebook, 15-20 (at least) are survivors of sexual abuse.”

Photographed in New York City on June 2nd.

Not sure what Project Unbreakable is? Click here.

Want to be a part of Project Unbreakable? Email us at projectunbreakable@gmail.com

Find us on Facebook & Twitter

View submissions here

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therapsida:

FYI: What Transmisogny Looks Like

youarenotyou:

Relationship and Sexual Violence

When trans women desperately in need of sexual assault or domestic violence services are turned away because their needs are considered less important than the hypothetical discomfort their presence might cause for others, that’s transmisogyny.

When activists encourage people not even to try to fight for trans women’s access to sexual assault and domestic violence services because of the possibility that it could leave trans men unable to access those services, that’s transmisogyny.

When I, personally, sought out support after being abused by my trans male partner and was told by a prominent genderqueer activist that because I’m a trans woman and felt validation in talking with cis women who have experienced abuse, I must have invented the abuse in an attempt to feel more like a woman by having an abusive boyfriend, that’s transmisogyny.

When a trans woman is brave enough to talk openly about surviving childhood violence and experiencing rape, only to be told that her pain is less valid or important than cis women’s experience of sexism, that’s transmisogyny.

Gender Expression

When trans women who present femininely or assert a binary identity are blamed for perpetuating binary gender roles, while it’s forgotten that many or even more cis women do the same, that’s transmisogyny. (When cis women who present femininely are also blamed for perpetuating binary gender roles, that’s femmephobia)

When trans women have every aspect of their presentation examined and labeled either hyperfeminine and therefore fake or not feminine enough and therefore male, while the same traits would be seen as normal in cis women, that’s transmisogyny.

When trans masculine spaces allows cis butch women to attend but turn away trans butch women, that’s transmisogyny. (When femme trans men are also turned away from those spaces, that’s femmephobia.)

Politics and Activism

When trans women and transfeminine genderqueers are assumed to be conformist, apolitical, and weak while trans men and transmasculine genderqueers are assumed to be radical, with it, and hip, that’s transmisogyny (and femmephobia, and subversivism).

Specifically, when I present in a butch or genderfuck way and people assume I’m radical, politically knowledgeable and pay attention to me, but when I present femininely I am ignored, that’s transmisogyny (and femmephobia and subversivism).

When trans women are told that they are politically ignorant when they object to trans men “reclaiming” a derogatory term that has been used specifically against trans women and not against trans men, that’s transmisogyny.

When almost every local trans group in my state (and likely a majority in other states) are run by trans men and attended by a significant majority of trans men, yet people still complain about trans women dominating groups and point to inappropriate behavior by Virginia Prince and other transfeminine activists from decades ago as if it’s representative of what’s happening today, that’s transmisogyny.

When there’s only one trans support group in town and it’s for transmale folks only, or only one comprehensive online network to discuss surgery results and it’s for transmale folks only, or only one foundation offering financial help accessing surgery and it’s for transmale folks only, that’s transmisogyny.

“Male Privilege”

When trans women are told that they need to stop being assertive and strong because it is a sign of male privilege - invariably by “feminists” who, of course, encourage cis women to be assertive and strong - that’s transmisogyny.

When trans women are pressured into being silent, rarely offering their opinion, and refusing leadership roles for fear of being seen as male or accused of having male privilege, that’s transmisogyny.

When trans women are afraid to analyze or discuss the role of male privilege in their life because of the way accusations of male privilege have been used as weapons to silence, shame, and misgender trans women, that’s transmisogyny.

When trans women do analyze and discuss the role of male privilege in their lives and come to different conclusions than the dominant cis feminist perspective and are told it is because they simply don’t understand privilege or are ignorant of feminism, that’s transmisogyny.

Community and relationships

When “women and trans” space allows everyone on a transmale spectrum to attend unquestioned (because even if their trans status is not respected, they would still be welcomed as a woman) yet people on a transfemale spectrum are subjected to scrutiny and those who are not “trans enough” are asked to leave, that’s transmisogyny.

When those same “women and trans” spaces, or even the ones that don’t police entrance, are attended by a dozen or so trans men yet zero or only one or two trans women, that’s transmisogyny. (It obviously indicates that they don’t feel welcome, don’t trust the organizers, or weren’t outreached to.)

When queer women’s spaces have trans women inclusive policies, yet any trans women who attend are generally ignored or not included in discussions, that’s transmisogyny.

While it’s true that individual preferences in partners are complicated, when large swaths of queer women’s community exotify trans men or identify as trans-sensual or even “tranny chasers” while being clear that they will not consider trans women as potential partners, that’s transmisogyny (and in some cases, general transphobia or cissexist exotification as well).

When people who are attracted to women and have met only a few trans women announce that they would never date a trans women, that’s transmisogyny. (Think about it, if a white person announced that they’d never date a black woman, especially if they had only met 2-3 black women in their life, we’d name that as being influenced by racism.)

Sexualization

When the main way to diagnose fetishistic transvestitism or autogynophilia is to look for the presence of sexual enjoyment, and trans women who enjoy their sexuality risk being given one of those diagnoses and denied trans related health care, that’s transmisogyny.

When being sexually available to men and not interested in your own sexual gratification is another way to prove that you are not a fetishistic transvestite or autogynophile, that’s transmisogyny.

When doctors encourage target testosterone levels significantly lower than cis women’s average levels requiring high doses of testosterone blockers, and when the most common testosterone blocker reduces sexuality in addition to blocking testosterone, that’s transmisogyny. (When that’s something that trans women are asking for themselves, it’s more complex, but probably still influenced by transmisogyny somewhere.)

^ because i know people are lazy and don’t click on shit. but you should click on shit because ad revenue, obv.

(Source: statesofdependancy, via fuckyeahsexeducation)

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TRIGGER WARNING FOR SEXUAL HARASSMENT AND ASSAULT

3dollarbirkenstocks:

This video was posted on a Youtube channel popular with students at my high school. I can’t get over how angry I am after watching it and seeing the number of views they have. It promotes not only blatant sexism and gender stereotypes, but PROCEEDS TO MAKE FUN OF SEXUAL HARASSMENT like it’s not a problem. I plan on making a rebuttal video to show as the kick-off of my sexual assault and dating violence awareness campaign which launches at my high school in a little over a week. If anyone in the feminist blogsphere gets a hold of this and has something to add, hit me up @3dollarbirkenstocks.

This was brought to my attention and it’s really messed up and not okay. I am flagging it on youtube. Awful people.

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sexgenderbody:

In societies across the world, women are still openly harassed on the streets and in other public spaces. Leering, lecherous ogling. Harassment in the work place. Unsolicited physical, or non-physical sexual contact. 

The world is watching. Join the movement and stop street harassment.

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“ Like most women, I currently live in a society where violence, harassment and scary shit can break out at any moment, just because I told some random asshole “no” without bothering to be nice about it. Doing that is so dangerous that most women don’t dare; after a few scary incidents, they learn to make up excuses, to smile, to be sweet and welcoming, to act as if every single random asshole on the street is a precious new friend that they would just LOVE to stand outside of the Chipotle and chat with FOR HOURS, if only cruel fate had not intervened. That’s what it’s actually like, being a woman: Playing nice with every random asshole, because this random asshole might be the one who hurts you. And then, if he hurts you anyway, they’ll tell you that you led him on. ”

Tiger Beatdown (via pnasty)

My life

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this this this this this this this FOREVER

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“ You have nothing to feel ashamed of. I want you to know you didn’t do anything wrong. Please know that you were chosen by a monster. It’s not your fault. You didn’t ask for it and, most of all, you didn’t deserve it. ”

Writer-director Tyler Perry • In an open letter, published by The Daily Beast, to an 11-year-old alleged victim in the Jerry Sandusky case. “Do you know that at the young age of 11 you had more courage than all the adults who let you down?” he writes. “All of the ones who didn’t go to the proper authorities, all of the ones who were worried about their careers, reputations, or livelihoods. All of the ones who didn’t want to get involved. Or even the ones who tried to convince your mother not to fight. You are stronger than them all! I wonder what they would have done if it were their own child.” You rock, Tyler. (via shortformblog)

Tyler Perry for the GODDAMN WIN!

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If you are healing from sexual abuse, read this every morning. »

fox-power:

clicking on this link was the best decision i’ve made all day.

(Source: pandys.org, via little-sword-deactivated2013040)

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International Day for the Elimination of Violence Against Women »

stfuconservatives:

[TW: rape] A top United Nations official today marked the International Day for the Elimination of Violence Against Women with a call for solidarity with the survivors of sexual violence in conflict throughout the world.

“These survivors, mainly women and girls, have lived through unspeakable horrors at the hands of armed groups who deliberately and systematically use rape as a tactic of terror,” stated the Secretary-General’s Special Representative on Sexual Violence in Conflict, Margot Wallström.

For too long, crimes of sexual violence have been perceived as inevitable, unspeakable and a lesser crime. Together we must break down the walls of silence and shame,” she said in a statement to mark the Day, which is observed annually on 25 November.

Please consider donating to End Violence Against Women International, the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence or RAINN today.

-R

(Source: stfuconservatives)

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AHS fandom, your rape culture is showing…

writeoutoflove:

Trigger Warning: Mention of rape/response to victim blaming~

First of all, I would like to inform you of a thing called Rape by Deception/Rape by Fraud. For example, if a person consents to have sex with one person (aka Vivien consenting to have sex with her husband), but that person has been tricked by their partner and they are, in fact, not who the victim believes (aka Tate having sex with Vivien under false pretenses and having her believe it was Ben), it is rape.

Blaming Vivien for this, because “Oh, she should have known better.” or “She wanted sex.” is called victim-blaming and is very prominent in rape culture. Vivien is the victim.

Do you know what causes rape? Rapists. Not victims.

Please understand this.

In simple terms: Yes, Vivien consented to sex. She did not consent to sex with Tate. Sex with Tate was not consensual, therefore it is rape.

The FBI is actually changing the old definition of rape. It is now defined as, “penetration, no matter how slight, of the vagina or anus with any body part or object, or oral penetration by a sex organ of another person, without the consent of the victim.”

Tate did not have consent. Ben did. But Ben wasn’t there. Tate did not have consent, therefore it is rape.

 Also, not every single case of rape or assault is going to include violence (hitting, yelling, screaming), by the way. This is one of the biggest arguments I see on the AHS tag —there wasn’t a fight scene, so therefore he didn’t actually do anything bad. Just in case you didn’t know, there are some cases where victims are too terrified to say no or struggle. There are some cases when the victim isn’t even conscious. Are those people to be blamed, as well? No, of course not.

Vivien was a victim. Vivien was violated and lied to. You might not like her as a character, but that doesn’t take away from the fact that she was used by someone she did not consent to.

I am obsessed with this show (and Evan Peters face) but it is getting increasingly problematic and the fandom is reflecting the media’s portrayal of rape and how it is internalized. I have read some disturbing rationalizations and victim blaming within the AHS tag. Rape culture has a stranglehold on SO many people and SO young. The education has to begin somewhere. Great post.

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ignorance-is-the-enemy:

[TW: rape, sexual assault]
I designed these posters for a school anti-rape-trivialization campaign, but they’re no longer necessary.
I was going to make more though.
Also for poster #3, I’m not entirely sold on that statistic. I suppose the reason Aus comes in 3rd is to do with the fact that many places do not have their rape stats recorded, and in a lot of countries, there are less people, but proportionally more rapes.
Let me know what you think! -C

(Source: femme-ministry)

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likeproust:

stfuconservatives:

haguenite:

theweekmagazine:

Occupy Wall Street? Egyptian riots? London looting?
NOPE.
Penn State student rioting over the firing of Joe Paterno. More photos from last night’s riots here. 

If a group of crows is a murder, what’s a crowd of rape-apologizing douchebros called?

I believe a pace of asses would be appropriate.
-Joe

I think the overwhelming majority of male faces in this photo is rather telling.

likeproust:

stfuconservatives:

haguenite:

theweekmagazine:

Occupy Wall Street? Egyptian riots? London looting?

NOPE.

Penn State student rioting over the firing of Joe Paterno. More photos from last night’s riots here.

If a group of crows is a murder, what’s a crowd of rape-apologizing douchebros called?

I believe a pace of asses would be appropriate.

-Joe

I think the overwhelming majority of male faces in this photo is rather telling.

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she-hulk-smash:

nostanding-justdancing:

This one goes out to all of the fucking idiots at Penn State who are still so very much angry that Joe Paterno was fired.
Wake the fuck up, people, and stop talking about your precious JoePa’s tarnished reputation, because FUCK YOU, YOUR SCHOOL AND YOUR FOOTBALL PROGRAM PROTECTED A CHILD RAPIST AND PEDOPHILE, AND THAT IS WHAT YOU SHOULD BE RIOTING ABOUT.

^ Eliot has good angry commentary.
Dear Penn State rioters and ANYONE who cares more about “Joe Pa” losing his position as coach than they do about the fact that Jerry Sandusky not only raped children himself but also passed them around to other sick old rich people,
Go fuck yourselves. I don’t even have it in me to be eloquent about this. Your school, its administrators, and its sports program, were complicit in these rapes and the damage done to these children and their families. As if that wasn’t bad enough, you thought it was necessary to RIOT over  the fact that your coach was removed, and to make jokes about getting Sanduskied. The sister of one of the children who was abused by Sandusky said:

“I’ve just been really upset about it all because a lot of people aren’t focusing on the victims in this,” she said. “And instead they’re focusing on other things, like football. As much as you shouldn’t blame the football players … they should be focusing on their respect for the families and what they’ve been through.” 

What the FUCK is wrong with you people? What fucked up world do you live in where your school’s football team is more important than the fact that somebody on staff raped kids AND the school knew about it AND they covered it up? 
You aren’t worth my fucking time, Penn State. Go. Fuck. Yourselves.

she-hulk-smash:

nostanding-justdancing:

This one goes out to all of the fucking idiots at Penn State who are still so very much angry that Joe Paterno was fired.

Wake the fuck up, people, and stop talking about your precious JoePa’s tarnished reputation, because FUCK YOU, YOUR SCHOOL AND YOUR FOOTBALL PROGRAM PROTECTED A CHILD RAPIST AND PEDOPHILE, AND THAT IS WHAT YOU SHOULD BE RIOTING ABOUT.

^ Eliot has good angry commentary.

Dear Penn State rioters and ANYONE who cares more about “Joe Pa” losing his position as coach than they do about the fact that Jerry Sandusky not only raped children himself but also passed them around to other sick old rich people,

Go fuck yourselves. I don’t even have it in me to be eloquent about this. Your school, its administrators, and its sports program, were complicit in these rapes and the damage done to these children and their families. As if that wasn’t bad enough, you thought it was necessary to RIOT over  the fact that your coach was removed, and to make jokes about getting Sanduskied. The sister of one of the children who was abused by Sandusky said:

“I’ve just been really upset about it all because a lot of people aren’t focusing on the victims in this,” she said. “And instead they’re focusing on other things, like football. As much as you shouldn’t blame the football players … they should be focusing on their respect for the families and what they’ve been through.” 

What the FUCK is wrong with you people? What fucked up world do you live in where your school’s football team is more important than the fact that somebody on staff raped kids AND the school knew about it AND they covered it up? 

You aren’t worth my fucking time, Penn State. Go. Fuck. Yourselves.

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Demand Facebook Remove Pages That Promote Sexual Violence »

feminismisforreal:

The following are actual pages on Facebook:  ”Raping your mates girlfriend to see if she can put up a fight”, “Kicking Sluts in the Vagina,” “I know a silly little bitch that needs a good slap,” and “Riding your Girlfriend softly, Cause you dont want to wake her up.” These clearly are in violation of Facebook’s own policies and need to be removed.

Facebook’s own Terms of Service prohibit content that is “hateful, threatening,” or contains “graphic or gratuitous violence” Moreover, users are specifically barred from posting content that aims to “bully, intimidate, or harass” any user.

Facebook could and should do more to stop them from popping up in the first place and to swiftly remove those that do exist. First, Facebook needs to clarify that pages that encourage or condone rape —like the ones mentioned above— are in violation of their existing standards. Secondly, they need to make a statement that all pages that describe sexual violence in a threatening way will be immediately taken down upon being reported. Finally, Facebook must include specific language in their Terms of Service that make it clear that pages promoting any form of sexual violence will be banned.

Demand that Facebook took a stronger stand in enforcing its own policies and stop promoting rape and rape culture.

(Source: orionsnightsky)

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“ Not being assaulted is not a privilege to be earned through the judicious application of personal safety strategies. A woman should be able to walk down the street at 4 in the morning in nothing but her socks, blind drunk, without being assaulted, and I, for one, am not going to do anything to imply that she is in any way responsible for her own assault if she fails to Adequately Protect Herself. Men aren’t helpless dick-driven maniacs who can’t help raping a vulnerable woman. It disrespects EVERYONE. ”

Emily Nagoski. no idea who she is, but i thank her. there is no excuse for rape and anyone who excuses it is insulting both the victim and the rapist. (via rapeisnotajoke)

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