Today Tristin wore his dress. Not a huge thing as he wears it quite often but this was different. Today was the first time he kept it on when we left. Usually when he wears it he will change, completely his choice, if I say we are going somewhere. He just wasn’t quite comfortable going out in public with it. Today he just put on his sandals. I asked him a couple times if he was sure and he was. So with a boy in a pink dress and Tinkerbell flip flops, we went.
We hit up Goodwill (finally found some teacups I liked!), Lowe’s and Target. I kept a look out for how people reacted to him, just so if he noticed I could talk with him about it later. There were some curious looks but nothing major. Most people were looking at my hair anyway. The only negative reaction I saw was actually a surprising one. A young girl maybe nine years old gave him a dirty look as we were walking out of Target. Tristin didn’t notice since he was talking about his new Hello Kitty flip brush/mirror.
I know there will be a day when he will notice how some people treat those who are “different” but I’m glad that for now he took a big step for himself and the world as he knows it is alright.
Oh my god, he’s so cute!!!
My daughters should not have a truck grabbed out of their hands by an adult and handed to a male cousin because, “This is a boy toy anyway.”
My son shouldn’t be ridiculed because his favorite color is pink.
When Mabel’s mother asked her what she wanted to be for Halloween, she said, “Batman Princess.” And that’s the costume she got.
B A T M A N P R I N C E S S
I was asked if being a lesbian parent was much different from being a straight parent. I must tell you that being a mom of two keeps me on my toes, not because I am gay but because I am a parent. I go to room parent meetings, buy snacks when it’s my turn to be snack mom, get uniforms together, buy cleats, practice baseball, do homework and pray with my children. I am a mother of two boys, a twelve and a five year old.
My oldest son is so headstrong about being independent that we are not allowed to get out of the car when picking him up from school. The other day I was picking him up early for a doctor’s appointment. I was watching him exit the school and witnessed him trip and fall to the ground. Instinctively I was out of the car and on my way to rescue my child as if he were in a building that was on fire. My son had barely touched the ground when he looked at up at me and quite authoritatively pointed to the car. My son was ordering me to get back in the car which I did immediately. My life partner went to pick him up on a different occasion and as he saw her drive up, he waved with a smile. As she reached for her door she saw his smile change to a serious look. It was the same “Stay in the car” look that we have grown accustomed to. His 5 year old brother can roll down the window and yell, “I love you, Brother! I will miss you today” but there is no sin greater than a parent doing that. At his schools open house, we were validated by hearing other parents with the same complaint. One parent said that his daughter text him and tells him exactly where to park and then types in the order to “stay put!” We all laugh it off as if it doesn’t rip our hearts out to see our children pretend not to need us. It is in the quiet moments at home where no friends can see that our children cuddle up to us and tell us their innermost thoughts or concerns that we treasure! Those moments when you hear, “Mom, I need your help” will have to remain in our hearts when we are parked waiting patiently for our children to get in the car and we take on our roles as being simply their drivers.
The other day in a car filled with boys I responded to my son by saying, “Yes, sweetheart.” I was shocked by the immediate silence that ensued. The boys looked at one another. I dared to take a peek at my son in the mirror. His face was red and I could see the steam coming out of his ears. Finally, as if God heard my prayer one his friends said, “Thank goodness, it’s not just my Mom that embarrasses me!” Is there something wrong with the fact that a statement such as that was my saving grace? Boys will be boys, I suppose and Moms will be moms!!
I remember doing the same thing to my parents. At the age of 40 I called my mother yesterday for advice. I remember after hanging up the phone how happy I was that she is here for me! One day, my boys will need to call me and they may even be happy I answer the phone!
So my answer is a resounding NO, it’s not the sexual orientation of the parent that matters. It’s the patience, the memory of your own childhood days, the love and the strong skin that will remind you why you became a parent in the first place. If it bothers you that your child gets embarrassed by your presence just remember it will fade in time. You are raising an independent and strong individual AND you will always be their parent!! (Plus at their wedding, you can share embarrassing pictures of them as paybacks!)
High School Students Crowned America’s First Lesbian Homecoming Couple
Two California high school students became one of the first lesbian couples crowned homecoming king and queen in the nation this weekend.
Rebeca Arellano, a senior at Patrick Henry High School, was made the school’s first female homecoming king when her name was announced Friday at a pep rally.
“They were chanting my name and it was one of the most amazing experiences I’ve ever had,” said Arellano.
Arellano’s girlfriend, Haileigh Adams, who also attends Patrick Henry High School, was made homecoming queen at Saturday night’s dance.
“I was happier than when I won, my little Haileigh has just been announced Homecoming queen and I couldn’t feel happier! Thanks to every single one of you! You guys made this happen and we are all part of something huge. I can’t fully express how grateful I am. I am in completely shocked that this happen. My girl looks absolutely flawless,” wrote Arellano on Facebook Saturday night.
The two girls told ABC News that they’re thankful for the abundance of support they’ve received from family, friends, and students and staff at the school.
Arellano said one of her teachers told her, “Today school is a bit better because of you girls.”
Arellano’s Facebook wall is covered with congratulatory notes from her friends.
“Thank you all for allowing this change to happen,” Arellano posted on Facebook.
Adams said they have received negative feedback as well.
“We have a lot of support, but there are also a lot of people who are angry about it,” she said. “Anonymous Patrick Henry students are saying they’re embarrassed and that it’s wrong for a girl to take the spot of king. But there’s no other way for us to run as a couple. It’s not really fair for us not to have the right to run as a couple.”
Arellano posted a statement to those who opposed her on her Facebook wall that read: “For all the girls who think tradition should be continued, go back to the kitchen, stop having sex before you’re married, get out of school and job system, don’t have an opinion, don’t own any property, give up the right to marry who you love, don’t vote, and allow your husband to do whatever he pleases to you. Think about the meaning of tradition when you use it in your argument against us.”
Adams and Arellano both came out their freshman year of high school, and they began dating in February of their sophomore year. They say their parents were supportive both when they came out and when they started dating.
I am so moved by this:
Yesterday, the Girl Scouts of Colorado spoke out in support of transgender children. Following the story of a child who was denied enrollment in a local Girl Scout troop despite identifying as a girl, the Girl Scouts of Colorado released a statement saying that the associate responsible for that troop was unaware of the organization’s policy. “Girl Scouts is an inclusive organization and we accept all girls in Kindergarten through 12th grade as members,” the statement says. “If a child identifies as a girl and the child’s family presents her as a girl, Girl Scouts of Colorado welcomes her as a Girl Scout.” Girl Scouts of Colorado also asserted that it is reaching out to the family of the excluded child and will be altering its training programs so that all girls are supported.
<3 This is really fucking awesome.
Dutch parents, by contrast, downplay the dangerous and difficult sides of teenage sexuality, tending to normalize it. They speak of readiness (er aan toe zijn), a process of becoming physically and emotionally ready for sex that they believe young people can self-regulate, provided they’ve been encouraged to pace themselves and prepare adequately. Rather than emphasizing gender battles, Dutch parents talk about sexuality as emerging from relationships and are strikingly silent about gender conflicts. And unlike Americans who are often skeptical about teenagers’ capacities to fall in love, they assume that even those in their early teens fall in love. They permit sleepovers, even if that requires an “adjustment” period to overcome their feelings of discomfort, because they feel obliged to stay connected and accepting as sex becomes part of their children’s lives. ”
I would like to be this kind of parent.
dude let’s all be dutch
Seriously The Netherlands is fucking amazing okay.
FAR FROM WRONG! It’s marvelous!
Parenting, you’re doing it right.
my children will be raised in a gender-neutral environment. <3